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What is unschooling?

There are many different ways that parents homeschool their children and unschooling is one form of homeschooling.

Unschooling Is a Style of Homeschooling

To begin with, unschooling is a style or type of homeschooling. The term unschooling is a word that is frequently used in the homeschooling world. In fact, there are even different types of unschooling.

You might see these statements or questions about unschooling…

  • “Are there any other radical unschoolers in this group?”
  • “We’re more of a relaxed homeschooling family.”
  • “Who else is unschooling their children?”
  • “We unschool for everything except math and reading.”

Common Ways Homeschoolers Describe Themselves

Here are some common ways that you’ll hear a parent describe their family. They might say “We’re…”

  • Unschoolers.
  • Radical unschoolers.
  • Intentional unschoolers.
  • Eclectic homeschoolers.
  • Relaxed homeschoolers.

While all of these family’s might consider themselves to be unschoolers, to some degree, eclectic and relaxed homeschooling is not really unschooling. Eclectic homeschooling is more about cherry picking your favorite parts of educational opportunities and curriculum to suit your needs. Eclectic homeschooling is also more parent led.

Relaxed homeschoolers often unschool in everything except math and reading. Once again, this type of education (relaxed homeschooling), is more parent-led, relies on curriculum, and is not really unschooling.

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Two Basic Types of Unschoolers

The term unschoolers refers to both radical and intentional unschoolers.

Radical unschooling is absolutely child-led learning. Parents act as a resource and guide, but the child chooses what to focus on and learn.

Intentional unschooling parents often discreetly guide their child’s education while helping the child feel that they are in charge.

For example, a parent might plan educational field trips knowing that the child will learn something new and might develop a new interest.

In addition to field trips, an unschooling parent might use strewing techniques. When strewing, parents might leave educational books, games, and worksheets laying about. In essence, they are hoping the child will take an interest in some of the items.

When the child wants to watch television, the parent might guide the child toward an educational program. Overall, with intentional unschooling, the child is still following their own interests, but the parent is being intentional about guiding them toward higher quality decisions.

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What Unschooling Doesn’t Mean

Let’s talk about what the word unschooling doesn’t mean.

While each parent might have a different unschooling philosophy, most parents would agree on the following.

Unschooling doesn’t mean that you…

  • Ignore your child’s need for education.
  • Aren’t parenting your child.

What Unschooling Does Mean…

  • Unschooling implies that you approach education with a very different mindset than those who are involved with the traditional public school system.

Unschooling parents understand the following.

  • Children are natural learners. They will learn many different things by following their own interests at their own pace.
  • Traditional schooling may limit a child’s curiosity, their ability to follow their own passions, and eagerness to learn.
  • Children can learn in a variety of environments and ways.
  • While traditional school subjects are important, there are many other things for a child to learn as well.
  • Field trips and experiential activities are often a key component to peaking a child’s interest in other areas.
  • Education and learning are important, but life is not about school.

Unschooling parents understand these principles, AND they have the fortitude to break away from the traditional school mindset and allow their children to learn in more natural ways.

Characteristics of Unschooling Families

  • Using curriculum is optional. Traditional textbooks are simply another resource available for learning, but they aren’t viewed as the primary way that a child should learn.
  • Unschooled kids are often Involved in a project or have an interest that is innately educational in nature.
  • The child is leading their own education with parental guidance.

Unschooling implies that you approach education with a very different mindset than those who are involved with the traditional public school system.

Unschooling vs Deschooling

If you’re new to the world of homeschooling, you’ve likely heard the term deschooling. Sometimes parents are unclear about the differences between the words unschooling and deschooling. Let’s take a moment to help you understand the distinctions between these words.

  • Unschooling is about approaching education with a vastly different mindset than is prevalent in a school environment
  • Deschooling is about breaking free from the mindset that children develop when they go to school.

Shortcomings of the Traditional Education System

One of the shortcomings of the traditional education system is that children are taught to wait for a classroom teacher to tell them what and when to learn.

Children learn to squelch their own curiosity and follow a path of education that was created for the masses rather than for individual children.

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Unschooling: Learning In a More Natural Way

The idea of unschooling is that children are given the time to learn in a more natural way. While a parent provides general direction, unschooled children follow a natural learning path. They are frequently allowed to make their own choices and learn in their own way.

Before Going to School

The unschooling approach is very simple with young children in the early years.


Because they haven’t been involved in formal education yet.

In essence, learning is still fun and enjoyable. On the other hand, older children or high school aged teenagers who have been in school or have strictly followed homeschool curriculum, might find learning to be a drag.

Oftentimes, when kids have been in school, they have developed a disdain for education and learning.


Because they equate education and learning to school.

Is School Fun Or a Drag?

School might be enjoyable if your child’s natural abilities align with what is expected of students in the public education system. On the other hand, if your child’s natural skills aren’t in alignment with your state’s requirements for education, then you’re child may struggle in the traditional education system.

While your child may be very intelligent, their genius is simply not rewarded in our cookie cutter school system.

For young people to rediscover a love for learning, deschooling may be a good idea. An individual child or teenager is encouraged to take charge of their own learning and their own education.

Given time and encouragement, children can begin the natural process of learning on their own again.

Deschooling After School

According to the Online Etymology Dictionary, deschooling is the “act or process of removing the function of education from conventional schools to non-institutional systems of learning.”

In a traditional school setting, children wait to be told what to do and what to learn.

Oftentimes, the child’s innate desire to learn and care for themselves is squelched in a system of traditional education.

When a child is deschooled, they are given the space and time not only to become curious again, but to follow their own body rhythms again as well.

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What Is Deschooling? Quote by Ivan Illich, Deschooling Society

Why Deschool?

If your children have been in school and are struggling with their education, then you might want to consider deschooling them. In addition, if you’ve strictly adhered to homeschool curriculum and your kids are struggling or bored with the curriculum, deschooling might be something for you to consider as well.

Another sign that you might want to deschool is that you and your child are struggling over school or curriculum. Is your child bored, struggling, or in tears? Are you stressed out, tense, or yelling over school? Is school exhausting for you or your child?

If you’ve answered, yes, then it might be time to deschool. On the other hand, if you’re child is doing well, then you probably want to stay the course.

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Alternative Ideas to Textbook Learning & Education

  • Play Games
  • Go to the library
  • Children’s museums
  • Regular museums
  • Recreation centers
  • Homeschool groups
  • Youth programs
  • Church activities
  • Watching Documentaries
  • YouTube
  • Play groups
  • Nature centers
  • Local classes
  • Online classes
  • Learning with family and friends
  • Field Trips
  • Traveling

Books & Articles About Unschooling

The books and articles that follow share a different perspective about education than we learn in school. They’ll also help you understand unschooling better.

HomeSchool ThinkTank Articles

  • Why You Need A Homeschool Philosophy. In this article & podcast episode, we share what homeschool philosophy is and why you need one. Learn why the founder of HomeSchool ThinkTank has the philosophy of connection, community, and education.
  • Examine Your Belief System Around Education. If you want to dive more into shifting your mindset around school, education, learning, and homeschooling, then consider diving into this four-part HomeSchool ThinkTank (HSTT) series. It’s available as a podcast series or article.
  • Public School vs True Homeschooling. This HSTT article is about the tremendous differences between doing public school at home and true homeschooling. Also available in podcast format.
  • Homeschooling Styles & Terminology. This article has more information about homeschooling styles and terminology that you might find useful.
  • How Do You Learn? Consider the differences between education, school, and learning. This article is designed to help you evaluate your own belief system around how children learn.

Books About Unschooling

Free to Learn by Peter Gray

Free to Learn by Peter Gray explains the history of education, how it impacts us today, and the science behind how kids learn. This is a book that every parent should read. We loved listening to this audiobook. It’s available in print too.

Dumbing Us Down by John Taylor Gatto

Dumbing Us Down by John Taylor Gatto. The late Mr. Gatto shares many of the lessons that have been taught through the decades in schools across America. While these lessons are not evident on the surface, they go much deeper than your average math lesson. Dumbing Us Down gets to the core of how well our society has been indoctrinated by the public education system. We strongly recommend this incredible book.

Dumbing Us Down

The Unschooling Handbook by Mary Griffith

The Unschooling Handbook by Mary Griffith helps you envision the unschooling lifestyle and how it could look or your family. This is a relaxing read that has the power to influence how you approach homeschooling for years to come.

How Children Learn by John Holt

How Children Learn and How Children Fail by John Holt are both classics among the homeschooling crowd. As a homeschooling parent, you will want to be familiar with How Children Learn. The author and educator, John Holt, is widely considered to be the Father of Unschooling. John Holt also founded the magazine Growing Without Schooling. While this magazine is no longer in publication, it was quite popular amongst the homeschooling parents in its day.

Unschooled by Kerry McDonald

Unschooled by Kerry McDonald is an outstanding book with numerous stories and resources about unschooling. We highly recommend this book for anyone who is interested in this lifestyle. With a foreward by Peter Gray, the reader knows that this book will deliver and it does.

A Book About Homeschooling

THINK HOMESCHOOL is designed to help you quickly imagine what homeschooling is about. Read this book to quickly decide if homeschooling is the right decision for your family. It’s available as an audiobook, ebook, or paperback.

Unschooling Articles

The Foundations of Unschooling

The Foundations of Unschooling, is an article that was written by Pat Farenga. Patrick Farenga published the magazine that John Holt founded, Growing Without Schooling. In the article, The Foundations of Unschooling, Patrick Farenga says that “unschooling is a term first coined by the John Holt to mean learning and teaching that does not resemble school learning and teaching.”

Following are a few more quotes from The Foundations of Unschooling by Pat Farenga.

  • “I broadly define unschooling as allowing your children as much freedom to explore the world around them in their own ways as you can comfortably bear: I see unschooling in the light of partnership, not in the light of the dominance of a child’s wishes over a parents or vice versa.”
  •  “…unschooling is the freedom for anyone, young or old, to choose why, what, when, how, and from whom to learn things is a key element in John Holt’s work. In short, if you don’t have the freedom to choose what to think about then you are in mental slavery; of course, we can choose to subordinate ourselves to a teacher (the master-pupil relationship)in order to accomplish or learn something, but that relationship only works well if the student wants to learn that subject or work with that teacher.” 

Patrick Farenga. “The Foundations of Unschooling.” John Holt GWS (Growing Without Schooling)

Unschooling or Homeschooling

Unschooling or Homeschooling, by Billy Greer is an interesting article that dives into the history of unschooling. We found this article in the Way Back Internet Archive. Here’s one quote for thought.

“School is a case of knowledge (that someone else has determined to be important) chasing after the student, while unschooling puts the student chasing after the knowledge (that they have decided is important.)”

We also like this quote from Unschooling or Homeschooling by Billy Greer.

“What is it that unschoolers do? Where do you find a curriculum package that will help you to be an unschooler? The reason that unschooling is hard to explain and hard for some people to understand, is that it is not a technique that can be broken down to a step by step process. Rather, unschooling is an attitude, a way of life. Where most homeschooling puts the emphasis on what needs to be learned, unschooling puts the emphasis on who is doing the learning. This makes it a very personalized experience and one that does not lend itself well to the one size-fits-all approach of a commercial curriculum package.”

Billy Greer. Unschooling or Homeschooling. Family Unschoolers Network (F.U.N.) We discovered this article in the Way Back Internet Archive.

A Video About Unschooling

This video about unschooling by Knorpp and South is an excellent resource for any parent who is thinking about unschooling their children.

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